They are experienced by you as the way you want to
be in the here and now
Values are the states of being that I want to experience,
for example: Love - Happiness
Success - Caring for others
Giving - Listening
Belonging
Values are also states of being that I do
not want to experience, for example:
Being rejected - Being disliked
Being misunderstood - Being lonely
Being poor
Why it is important...
You need to understand your values
because they determine your behaviour to a large extent.
What you need to know...
If you live your life in a constant
fear of being in a state you do not want to be in - you
will behave in a different way to that if you lived your
life trying to achieve those states you do want to experience.
So here is a little exercise to help you find out your:
Describe what really motivates you, in order of importance: e.g. happiness,
success, relationships, helping others. (these are your values).
How do you behave to help you to achieve these:
Describe what really de-motivates you in order of importance: e.g. rejection,
criticism, fear of failure.
How you behave to avoid these:
Next steps...
Look at these - think about them deeply -
make firm commitments to yourself to make changes necessary
in your priorities and behaviours that will help you
move towards where you want to be.
